What's My Attachment Style?

Your attachment style is the pattern you tend to bring to close relationships, shaped by your early experiences and reinforced over time. It affects how you handle closeness, conflict, and connection with the people you care about.

 

The Four Attachment Styles

 

Secure

Comfortable with both closeness and independence, and generally trusts that the people close to them are reliable.

Anxious

Craves closeness and reassurance, and can feel sensitive to small changes in a relationship.

Avoidant

Values independence and can find too much closeness a little overwhelming at times.

Fearful-Avoidant

Wants closeness but can also feel unsafe getting too close, leading to a push-pull pattern.

What's My Attachment Style?

Trudy Jacobsen

Trudy Jacobsen

Trudy Jacobsen is a highly experienced counsellor with over 20 years of experience supporting individuals and couples with her warm, grounded and outcome-driven approach. She is available for new clients for in-person appointments in Booval, Brisbane as well as online video appointments.  

https://lifesupportscounselling.com.au/counsellors/trudy-jacobsen/

  • Master of Social Work
  • Bachelor of Social Work (Honours)
  • Member of the AASW

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How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help

Understanding your attachment style is a great first step towards building healthier, more secure relationships. If you'd like to talk to someone about what you've learned, Life Supports can help match you with a counsellor who's the right fit for you.

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FAQs

Yes, attachment styles can shift with awareness, experience, and support.

Yes, understanding each other's patterns can actually strengthen a relationship.

Early experiences often play a role, though later relationships can shape it too.

Yes, a counsellor can help you build more secure, confident ways of relating.