Should I Break Up with My Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Figuring out whether you should break up with your partner can feel impossible. How do you know if you're just going through a rough patch, or if it's really time to end the relationship? Both staying and leaving can feel like frightening choices. While this is a decision only you can make, our breakup quiz gives you the space to pause, reflect, and gain clarity, helping you move towards the decision that feels right for you.
Should I break up with my boyfriend/girlfriend? Our Quiz
Trudy Jacobsen
Trudy Jacobsen is a highly experienced counsellor with over 20 years of experience supporting individuals and couples with her warm, grounded and outcome-driven approach. She is available for new clients for in-person appointments in Booval, Brisbane as well as online video appointments.
https://lifesupportscounselling.com.au/counsellors/trudy-jacobsen/
- Master of Social Work
- Bachelor of Social Work (Honours)
- Member of the AASW
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Still Not Sure? You're Not Alone
How to know if you should break up with a partner is not easy, but we hope taking the time to answer these questions has helped you gain a clearer sense of how to move forward. If you feel like you should keep working on your relationship, that’s great news. If you know the relationship isn’t right and feel like you should break up with your partner, that’s progress too. No matter the conclusion you have drawn, know that you don’t need to make any decisions straight away, and that counselling can support you through your next steps, no matter what they look like.
How Relationship Counselling Can Help
Life Supports can support you through relationship challenges, whether you attend individually or as a couple. We begin by understanding why you're seeking therapy, your goals, preferences, availability, and whether you'd prefer online or in-person sessions. From here, we match you with a counsellor whose experience and therapeutic approach best fit your situation. With therapists available seven days a week and a broad range of expertise, we're confident we can help you find the right support.
If you’re interested in learning more about relationship counselling or would like to organise a session, call 1300 735 030 or leave us an email via our contact page.
FAQs
Having doubts in a relationship is completely normal, and is something most people will experience, even if they are with the right person. Once a relationship matures and the initial excitement of infatuation settles, it’s natural to pause and reflect on whether the relationship is right for you. Of course, occasional doubts are different from persistent uncertainty, just as they are different from feeling unsafe, consistently undervalued, or emotionally undermined in your relationship. Those experiences deserve to be taken seriously. If you ever feel unsafe, know that support is available.
Yes, one-on-one sessions can be incredibly valuable if you're trying to figure out if you should stay with, or break up with a partner. Therapy provides a safe and supportive environment to explore your thoughts, helping you navigate your feelings and arrive at a decision and a plan for moving forward that aligns with your values.
How long relationship counselling takes will vary from couple to couple and from person to person. It may also depend on the therapist you choose or the style of therapy you opt for. Generally, standard sessions are 50–60 minutes long, although some therapists offer 90-minute sessions for the initial appointment. The number of sessions you may require will also vary. Your therapist will guide you, but generally, behavioural change may begin after 4-6 sessions. However, depending on your needs and goals, you may benefit from 8, 10, or more sessions. Every relationship is different, so there’s no right or wrong timeline.